Dating and relationships
Open relationships, break-ups, who pays, and whether dating a white person comes with advantages.
Wolves In The City
The podcast with Lee Gray & DJ Jay Jay Revlon
Wolves In
The City A Black Gay Podcast
A diary of Black queer life, in our own words.
Wolves In The City is a gay podcast hosted by best friends Lee Gray and DJ Jay Jay Revlon - candid conversations about Black queer life, dating, friendship, masculinity and queer culture, from New York, London and Barcelona.
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Never heard Wolves In The City? These five episodes, from 2018 to now, show what the Black gay podcast is about: Lee Gray and Jay Jay Revlon, best friends, candid and funny, from New York, London and Barcelona.
- 35Good GriefStart here for the heart of the show. Lee on grief, friendships that end, and losing a friend too young. Then the first Interracial Diaries, and Jay Jay on trial in the AITA.
- 31Say No To Monogamy: Part 2Dating and relationships, with humour. Why Lee and Jay Jay each left London, Jay Jay's open-relationship years, and whether the gays are settling down because they are grown. It picks up eight years after #8 Say No To Monogamy (2018).
- 15He loves me, He Loves Me NotAn episode all about relationships. Jay Jay opens up about his break-up and what it taught him, and Lee asks the pack for advice on his own relationship dilemma.
- 10Pride 2018 RecapLee and Jay Jay on London Pride and Black Pride: what Pride means now, and how to handle spaces that are not Black, not queer, or not welcoming. With a surprise guest.
- 7POSEBall culture on screen with the show Pose, plus Jay Jay on the grooming of young queer men in the community and a warning to younger listeners.
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The show
Plenty of shade. Zero filter.
Wolves In The City is what happens when two best friends say the quiet parts out loud. Lee and Jay Jay talk through their own lives - different opinions, humour and honesty - from New York, London and Barcelona.
- On air since 2018
- Back again 2026
- Recorded between New York, London & Barcelona
The conversations
What we talk about
Every week, Lee and Jay Jay take on one big topic, react to a clip going around, and judge a Reddit dilemma. A few of the things they come back to:
Black queer life and identity
Black Pride, colourism, masculinity and femmephobia, interracial relationships.
Ballroom, nightlife and queer spaces
Ball culture, London voguing, who gets to take up space in queer venues, and Jay Jay's week with Beyoncé.
Allyship and community
What a real ally is, who profits off the community, and supporting young queer people.
Friendship, grief and growing up
Losing friends, leaving home cities, and looking back at how you came up.
The format
Every episode, three parts
The hook
The thing they can't stop talking about this week, straight in.
Right Here Right Now
A clip that's going around - then their take, from their own experience.
AITA
A Reddit "Am I The Asshole?" dilemma, judged with no mercy.
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The hosts
Meet the Wolves
Lee Gray
Co-host · New York
Lee grew up in a huge family - good early training for making himself heard. He appeared in the film Kidulthood and ITV's The Bill, hosted Ask The Aunties for Snapchat, and co-hosts Wolves In The City from New York.
Jay Jay Revlon
DJ, voguer & nightlife curator · London & Barcelona
Described by Time Out as "one to watch", Jay Jay is credited as instrumental to the rise of London's voguing scene, created the Kiki House of Tea and the ballroom collective English Breakfast London, and DJs everywhere from Pride to Paris.
Press
In the press
"Perfect for anyone who enjoys a raunchy, good time."
Cosmopolitan UK Editors on Great Pods - 5/5
- BBC NewsSummer podcast guide, 2018
- Great Pods5.0/5 listing
- MetroBest podcasts for summer